1. Make your job search a priority. Jobs o not fall in your lap,you have to chase them. Especially a goo one. It’s a job to look for a job. Use spreasheets to track your progress. An plan early. Golman Sachs,for example,starts its information sessions in September.

第十一，好工作要自己去找，不要等著天上掉餡餅，尤其是好的工作。找工作本身就是一件工作，你應(yīng)該用表格記錄找工作的過程。并且要提前規(guī)劃。比如說高盛從9月份就開始招工信息通報(bào)會。

感想：幸福來源于自己去追求。等待將會一無所獲。

1. Take a course in happiness. Happiness stuy is revolutionizing how we think of psychology,economics,an sociology. How to be happy is a science that 150 schools teach. Preview: Learn to be more optimistic. This class will show you how.

第十二，選修關(guān)于&rquo;幸福&rquo;的心理課程。幸福的研究來源于我們對心理學(xué)、經(jīng)濟(jì)學(xué)和社會學(xué)的思考。如何快樂是一門學(xué)科，超過150個學(xué)校都在進(jìn)行這一方面的教學(xué)。學(xué)會積極樂觀的態(tài)度。

感想：幸福是一門需要用心去體驗(yàn)的學(xué)問。用愉快的心態(tài)去迎接社會的考驗(yàn)。

1. Take an acting course. The best actors are actually being their most authentic selves,says Liny Amos of communications coaching firm TAI Resources. Amos teaches executives to communicate authentically so that people will listen an feel connecte. You nee to learn to o this,too,an you may as well start in college.

第十三，上表演課。美國社會整個就是個舞臺，從教授、政治家、企業(yè)總裁，到律師、將軍、記者，不會表演就很難出頭。與人溝通，使人聆聽并感受的學(xué)習(xí)不妨從大學(xué)就開始學(xué)習(xí)。

感想：這就是我們常聽到的情商的重要性。社會是由人組成的，交流溝通無時不在。而方法和基本常識我們需要盡早的去學(xué)習(xí)。

1. Learn to give a compliment. The best compliments are specific,sogoo job" is not goo,writes Lisa Laskow Lahey,psychologist at Harvar an co-author ofHow the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work.&rquo; Practice on your professors. If you give a goo compliment the recipient will think you’re smarter: Big payoff in college,but bigger payoff in the work worl.

第十四，學(xué)會贊美別人。哈佛大學(xué)心理學(xué)家Lisa Laskow Lahey在《How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work》一書中說道：最好的恭維應(yīng)該是具體的，像“工作好”并不是一種好的贊美。如果你給別人一個好的贊美，你會被認(rèn)為是一個聰明的人(這樣的效果，在學(xué)校里會有很大的好處，在工作的世界里你的收益就會更大)。

感想：在生活中，既要當(dāng)好演員，也要當(dāng)好觀眾。很多時候我們總是感覺和別人有距離，其實(shí)就是缺那簡單的幾句問候和一個擁抱。學(xué)會感恩，你將生活的更快樂。

1. Use the career center. These people are experts at positioning you in the workforce an their only job is to get you a job. How can you not love this place? If you fin yourself thinking the people at your college’s career center are iiots,it’s probably a sign that you really,really on’t know what you’re oing.

第十五，使用就業(yè)指導(dǎo)中心。美國大學(xué)一個重要部門就是求職咨詢機(jī)構(gòu)。專業(yè)人員幫你分析自己的長短，以及就業(yè)市場，幫助你準(zhǔn)備面試，修改申請信。

感想：不需要一切都靠自己打天下。學(xué)校是你的后盾，有很多資源可以利用的。

1. Develop a strong sense of self by issing colleges that reject you. Happy people have ``a more urable sense of an aren’t as buffete by outsie events,&rquo; writes Sonja Lyubomirsky of the University of California-Riversie. When ba things happen,on’t take it personally. This is how the most successful business people bounce back quickly from setback.

第十六，被拒后應(yīng)該坦然以對?？鞓返娜俗约憾x自己，不會用外在指標(biāo)定義自己。當(dāng)不好的事情發(fā)生的時候，不要太在意。學(xué)會如何從失敗中走出來。

感想：成功的人就是那些學(xué)會了如何快速從失敗中站起來，再去奮斗的人。

1. Apply to Harvar as a transfer stuent. Sure people have wil success after going to an Ivy League school but this success is no more gran than that of the people who applie an got rejecte. All people who apply to Ivy League schools seem to have similar high self-confiencean ambition,even if they on’t get in,accoring to a stuy by Kreuger.

第十七，以轉(zhuǎn)校生的身份申請哈佛。人們從常春藤名校畢業(yè)無疑會取得巨大的成功，但是那些申請后被拒的學(xué)生也不差。所有申請常春藤名校的人，即使不能入校就讀，也都有同樣的自信和野心。

感想：成功的人有一顆永不言敗的心。

1. Get ri of your perfectionist streak. It is reware in college,but it leas to insane job stress an an inability to feel satisfie with your work. An for all of you still stuck on number 6,about itching the law school applications: The Utah Bar Journal says that lawyers are isproportionately perfectionists.

第十八，不要過分追求完美，不要給自己不必要的壓力。生活不止是工作，學(xué)習(xí)，它還有很多很多。

感想：生活是豐富多彩的，要去熱愛人生。

1. Work your way though college. Getting involve in stuent organizations counts,an so oes feeing chilren in Sierra Leone or sweeping floors in the chemistry builing. Each experience you have can grow into something bigger. Albert was an orientation leaer last year,an she turne that experience into a full-time summer job that morphe into a position managing 130 orientation leaers. A great bullet on the resume for a junior in college.

第十九，要靠打工讀完大學(xué)，積累工作經(jīng)驗(yàn)。通過打工你會認(rèn)識很多人，每一份工作，都會給你經(jīng)驗(yàn)的積累。領(lǐng)導(dǎo)才能的鍛煉就是從這些打工的過程中獲得的。

感想：大部分中國學(xué)生做不到，甚至認(rèn)為打工沒有必要，其實(shí)打過工的人才會真正珍惜生活。打工僅僅是學(xué)習(xí)的一種手段，通過打工，你會學(xué)到更多課本以外的使用知識。

1. Make to o lists. You can’t achieve reams if you on’t have a plan to get there.

第二十，把你的目標(biāo)列成表，因?yàn)槟銢]有計(jì)劃就不可能成功。不要整天沒事干老胡思亂想，只有真正的行動才能拯救你!

感想：從我做起，從現(xiàn)在開始做起。

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這些建議，凝聚著在哈佛這類學(xué)校長期執(zhí)教的教授的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。這20件事，沒有談?wù)n堂，沒有談讀書，上來就讓你走出圖書館。其實(shí)美國大學(xué)的學(xué)習(xí)閱讀量很大。但是，上課讀書，僅僅是大學(xué)生活的一部分。大學(xué)生從走進(jìn)校門那一天起，就要想到如何才能走出來，跨入社會。并且不斷尋找怎么才能更好的走出來。