這是奧巴馬寫給女兒的一封公開信，一共有 17 條建議。這是一位父親用他的人生經(jīng)驗告訴女兒最深刻的生活哲理，我們能夠從中讀到這位父親對女兒沉甸甸的愛。

Life is short. It may feel like it takes forever sometimes,but the reality is that you live,an a short time later,you ie. It happens so quickly,many people on ’ t even realize they ha a life until it ’ s alreay over.

生命如此短暫。我們有時候覺得生命怎么也走不完，實際上，你現(xiàn)在活著，過不了多久，就會死去。人生真是轉眼一瞬間的事情，很多人到臨死前才意識到這一生已經(jīng)結束。

1、 Stop Doubting Yourself?停止懷疑自己

If you on ’ t believe in yourself,noboy will. Success starts in your min,an if all you ’ re oing is putting yourself own an preicting failure,it ’ ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instea of oubting yourself,think positively. Not only will you be happier an more successful,you ’ ll sprea it to everyone aroun you.

如果你自己都不相信自己，那沒人會相信你。成功源于你的頭腦，如果你所做的是不斷地看扁自己，預言著未來的失敗，這就真的會成為現(xiàn)實。與其懷疑自己，不如積極的考慮問題。不僅會讓自己更加開心和成功，你還能夠感染到周圍的人。

2、 Stop Being Negative?停止消極

Now that you ’ re one oubting yourself,stop oubting others. You on ’ t like when people are critical of you,so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel – even if you have goo intentions,people on ’ t like hearing negativity.

現(xiàn)在你不要再懷疑自己了，也別再懷疑身邊的人。你不希望被人對你挑剔，那么也不要再去挑剔身邊的人。想想你給別人帶來的什么樣的感受吧——即使出發(fā)點是好的，別人也不想聽到那么多消極的事情呀。

3、 Stop Procrastinating?停止拖延

I on ’ t feel like procrastinating right now – I ’ ll o it tomorrow. When you procrastinate,you remain stagnant. Whatever you ’ re putting off oesn ’ t go away; resolve the problem,an move on. You ’ ll be much happier in the long run.

我現(xiàn)在不想做，還是留到明天吧。一旦開始拖延，其實你已經(jīng)停滯不前了。你拖延的事情不會自行解決。解決問題，繼續(xù)前行吧。從長遠角度來說你會更加快樂。

4、 Stop Being Mean?不要那么刻薄

It ’ s completely possible to step on someone ’ s toes without meaning to – it happens all the time. There ’ s no nee to pile on by purposefully oing mean things,so make a conscious effort to stop being mean. If someone wrongs you,let it go. There ’ s no nee to seek vengeance unless that ’ s the type of person you want to be.

無意踩到別人的情況真的有可能會發(fā)生——常常會發(fā)生。但沒必要去處心積慮的做一些不好的事情，所以要有意識地讓自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人對你無理地對待，隨他們去好了，沒必要去報復，除非你也想成為那一類的人。

5、 Stop Eating Out?不要在外吃飯

Eating out is the biggest waste of money. Every so often it ’ s nice to treat yourself,but eating out for every meal is the quickest way to rain your bank account. Learn how to cook at least a hanful of foos you enjoy: It ’ ll save you money,keep you healthier,an occasionally impress people.

在外面吃飯真的非常非常的浪費錢。也許每次對于你而言都是一次犒賞，但每頓都在外面吃反而是花光積蓄的最快方式。至少也去學學怎么做一些自己喜歡的菜：既能省錢，還能讓你更健康，還會讓其他人眼前一亮。

6、 Stop Being Lazy?不要再偷懶

Lazy people are annoying – it ’ s like pulling teeth getting them to o anything. If I can ’ t o something as simple as going to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing you to get your lazy butt out of be,I ’rather go alone. People have enough trouble motivating themselves; on ’ t make your friens an family waste their valuable energy motivating you as well.

懶人真的很招人煩——得像趕驢磨墨一樣逼著他們做事情。如果我想跟你看一場電影，卻不得不花一個小時說服你起床，那我寧愿一個人去看。給自己動力都不是件容易的事情，就別讓朋友和家人浪費寶貴的精力再來給你動力了吧。

7、 Stop Complaining?停止抱怨

We all have problems,an sometimes we nee to vent to someone. That ’ s acceptable,but pay attention to how often you ’ re venting. We all love helping our friens an family,but when all you get from someone is negativity,it ’ s easier to cut them off than help,especially if they ’ re always complaining about the same things.

我們都有麻煩事，有時候總想跟別人傾訴。這可以理解，但要注意你吐槽的頻率。我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人，但如果從那個人身上我只能感知到負能量，那么還是離得越遠越好吧，尤其是當他們在反復抱怨同一件事的時候。

8、 Stop Being Selfish?別再那么自私

If you only think about yourself,you ’ ll soon fin yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute an think about how your actions affect other people – i you take the last cup of coffee from the break room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don ’ t rink out the milk carton. We share this worl 100% of the time,so every action you take can affect other people.

如果你只考慮你自己，那么很快你會發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊只剩下你自己。停一分鐘想想你的行為會給別人帶來什么影響吧——你是不是從休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡？再倒?jié)M呀！你是不是和別人合租？不要喝光所有的牛奶，這個世界是一個完全由大家分享的世界，你所做的每件事都會影響到別人。

9、 Stop Wasting Time?別再浪費時間

I ’ ve sai it before,an I ’ ll say it again: time is the most valuable resource we have. Don ’ t waste your time on unprouctive things. If you want to explore the worl ’ s ark corners,that ’ s great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers,but I on ’ t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- an long-term goals.

雖然之前說過了，但我還想再說一遍：時間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源，不要把時間浪費在沒有意義的事情上面，如果你想探索這個世界的黑暗角落，很好。我也認識一些沒有固定工作的一些自由職業(yè)者，但我不會以犧牲自己的短期長期目標為代價和他們出去玩樂。

10、 Stop Making Promises?別再做承諾

Always uner-promise an over-eliver. When you make a promise,you ’ re aing responsibility to your plate that,espite all your best intentions,you may not be able to eliver on. More often than not,your promise is an absolute (i.e “ I promise I ’ ll always love you ” ),an only Sith eal in absolutes. Instea of making a promise with your wors,simply be there when people nee you,an excee their expectations with your actions.

總是做承諾，總是做不到。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己增添了責任，無論你的出發(fā)點有多好，你都不可能完成所有的部分。大部分時候，你的承諾都太過絕對（比如“我發(fā)誓我永遠愛你”），也只能在絕對環(huán)境中才能實現(xiàn)。與其用語言許下承諾，不如在別人需要你的時候出現(xiàn)，然后用行動達到他們的期望吧。

11、 Stop Being a Pushover?不要做老好人

We live in a capitalistic society in which everyone ’ s trying to sell us something. Everyone ’ s looking out for themselves in one way or another,an you nee to o the same. Stop putting yourself out because you ’ re too shy to say no.

我們所處的社會，每個人都試圖告知我們一些事情。每個人都從不同的角度去找尋著自己，你也需要，你要做的就是在合適的時候說不。

12、 Stop Listening to Haters?不要聽討厭的人說話

No matter what you want to o in life,there ’ s always someone aroun to tell you why it can ’ t an won ’ t work. I can come up with millions of reasons Twitter won ’ t work,an yet it ’ s one of the most popular social meia sites on the web. My opinion in ’ t stop Twitter ’ s success any more than it convince Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnett to stop acting. Why woul you let someone ’ s opinion stop you?

無論你想干什么，總會有人告訴你不要這么做，沒有用的。我可以想出成百萬條推特不實用的理由，但它還是互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上最流行的社交網(wǎng)站之一。我的想法不會阻止推特的成功，就像你無法勸科比退出 NBA 或喬什·哈奈特不要當演員了一樣，都毫無意義。那么為什么要讓別人的想法阻止你呢？

13、 Stop Being Wasteful?停止浪費

You on ’ t finish your meals,an away foo instea. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth,pouring precious water own the rain. You rive places you coul easily walk,burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource). You are wasteful,an it nees to stop.

你飯沒吃完，然后扔掉食物；刷牙的時候還開著水龍頭，就讓寶貴的水嘩嘩的流走；明明可以走到的地方你偏要開車，燃燒汽油（無法再生資源）。如果你浪費了，那就趕緊停止這一惡習。

14、 Stop Littering?不要亂扔垃圾

The only thing I hate more than wasteful people are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug,an there are more than you ’think. If you ’ ve ever thrown even one piece of gum,paper,cany wrapper,cigarette butt,etc on the groun,you ’ re a isgusting litterbug,an you shoul be ashame of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the worl – if each person only throws one “ innocent ” piece of garbage on the groun,that ’ s 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a worl in which noboy “ i it ”.

唯一一個讓我覺得比浪費的人更可惡的就是垃圾蟲。垃圾蟲最讓我厭惡，而且永遠多的讓你數(shù)不清。如果你曾扔過一塊口香糖，一張紙、糖果包裝、煙蒂，那么你就是惡心的垃圾蟲。你應該感到恥辱。世界上有超過 70 億的人——如果每個人都無意識的扔一點垃圾，那么全世界就會變成 70 億垃圾場，哪怕沒有罪魁禍首。

Your one ecision makes a HUGE ifference,an I will not allow you to blow it off an walk aroun with your hea hel high. You ’ re a litterbug,an it nees to stop immeiately. You on ’ t get a lifehack for this one,you filthy animal. Just stop – you alreay know how.

你的一個決定會產(chǎn)生深遠的影響，我不贊成你去大馬路大聲高呼。如果你是垃圾蟲，那么就需要馬上停止了，也許不會救命，但能讓你不那么惹人厭。停止這一舉動吧，你知道該怎么做的。

15、 Stop Taking Everything

Personally別把每件事太往心里去

People get offene about the strangest things. Take Kenrick Lamar ’ s now-infamous verse on “ Control ” this summer: he calle out a list of a ozen rappers he thinks he ’ s better than (an he ’ s right). The internet went crazy,an rappers all over the inustry rushe to their mics to recor a response. The thing is,all K-Dot sai is he ’ s the best rapper. Everyone took it personally,an that ’ s exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you,an if you ’ re easily upset,someone will use that to their avantage.

人們會因為一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯。就拿 Kenrick Lamar 這個夏天備受爭議的歌曲《 Control 》為例：他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認為比他弱的說唱歌手（的確是這樣），一石激起千層浪，整個說唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作為回擊。重點在于，所有的人都認為自己是最好的說唱者，每個人都更看重自己，這就是他的目的所在。這件事教給我們的無非就是不是所有的事都要圍著你轉，如果你是玻璃心，有人會利用這一點。

16、 Stop Talking?不要再說話了

Sometimes it ’ s best to just STFU – especially in relationships. I can ’ t even count how many times I create an issue that in ’ t nee to be an issue simply because I opene my mouth. Even if what you want to say is important,just shut up an rie it out. You can say more with your actions than wors,an you can ’ t listen when you ’ re talking.

有時候沉默是金——特別在情侶關系里。我都記不清到底多少次因為說錯話引發(fā)了本可以避免的爭端。即使你想說的非常重要，那也閉嘴，自行消化。你可以用行動證明一切，畢竟你自己說話的時候是聽不見的。

17、 Just Stop,an Breathe!?停一下，深呼吸吧！

No matter what you ’ re oing in life or how your ay is going,there ’ s always room to just stop for a moment an just breathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you ’ re oing wrong.

無論你現(xiàn)在在干什么，這一天過得怎么樣，你都需要好好停一下深呼吸。不如現(xiàn)在就歇一歇，犒賞自己總算挺過了一些錯事。

【微語】他在知識的海洋里遨游,每一滴汗水都澆灌著未來的花朵,綻放著希望的芬芳。